Not every form of domestic violence leaves a bruise. Washington law has recognized this for several years, and a recent published decision from the Court of Appeals reinforces it: a pattern of controlling, manipulative behavior can be enough to support a domestic violence protection order (DVPO), even when there is no recent physical assault. In Asbach v. Couto, No. 60325-0-II, the court upheld protection orders built largely on coercive control — including a public YouTube video — while also clarifying the limits on what a protection order may restrain.
| Short answer: In Washington, a documented pattern of coercive control can support a domestic violence protection order under RCW 7.105.010 — even without a recent physical assault. A court weighs the full pattern of controlling behavior and its impact, not a single incident. |
If you are weighing whether controlling behavior in your own situation could justify a protection order, this decision is worth understanding. Below, the attorneys at Blair & Kim break down what the court decided, what “coercive control” means under Washington law, and what petitioners across King, Pierce, and Snohomish Counties should take from it.
| Thinking about a protection order? Blair & Kim’s civil protection order team helps petitioners across the Seattle and Bellevue area understand their options. You can learn more about protection orders here. |
What Happened in Asbach v. Couto
The case arose out of a long history between a former couple who divorced in 2012. As part of that divorce, the petitioner obtained a permanent restraining order based on domestic violence, and the parenting plan limited the other party’s contact with the children because of abusive use of conflict. Over the following years, the trial court issued and repeatedly renewed protection orders covering the petitioner and the two children.
After the couple’s son turned 18 and his protection order expired, the father posted a public video to YouTube addressed to the son. In it, he made disparaging statements about the mother. The mother petitioned for a new protection order for herself and to renew the order for the couple’s minor daughter; the now-adult son filed his own petition, citing the video and incidents in which the father appeared at the son’s workplace and at a store where the daughter was present.
The trial court granted the protection orders, finding that the YouTube video and surrounding conduct amounted to coercive control. On appeal, Division II affirmed the orders, holding that substantial evidence supported a finding of coercive control. The court did, however, send one part of the orders back to the trial court — the broad restriction on posting online content — which we discuss further below.
How a Coercive Control Protection Order Works in Washington
Washington’s civil protection order statute defines domestic violence broadly. Under RCW 7.105.010(10)(b), domestic violence includes not only physical harm, bodily injury, assault, and stalking, but also coercive control and unlawful harassment between family or household members.
Coercive control is defined in RCW 7.105.010(4)(a) as a pattern of behavior used to cause another person physical, emotional, or psychological harm that, in purpose or effect, unreasonably interferes with that person’s free will and personal liberty. Importantly, the statute directs courts to consider the context and impact of the pattern of behavior from the perspective of a similarly situated person — not to view any single act in isolation.
That “context” rule was central in Asbach. Standing alone, a YouTube video criticizing a former spouse might not look like domestic violence. But the court declined to view the video in a vacuum. Against a documented history of physical violence, financial control, and emotional manipulation, the video read as a continuation of an established pattern — and that pattern is what the coercive control standard is designed to capture.
The Takeaway on Coercive Control
| In Washington, coercive control is a recognized form of domestic violence. Under RCW 7.105.010(4)(a), a court evaluating a protection order petition looks at the full pattern of controlling behavior and its impact — not just a single incident — to decide whether the conduct unreasonably interfered with the petitioner’s free will and personal liberty. |
Harm to One Family Member Can Affect the Whole Household
The court also addressed an argument that evidence of domestic violence directed at one family member could not support a protection order for another. Relying on Washington Supreme Court precedent, the court explained that abuse aimed at a parent can constitute domestic violence against a child in the same household — and that this reasoning is not limited to minor children. Here, it extended to an adult child still connected to the household.
For families navigating overlapping protection order, divorce, and custody and parenting plan issues, this is a meaningful point. A pattern of controlling conduct rarely affects only one person. Washington law allows courts to consider how that conduct ripples across an entire household when deciding who needs protection.
| Facing overlapping family law and protection order concerns? Blair & Kim handles both family law and domestic violence protection matters, which is especially useful when divorce, custody, and safety issues overlap in the same case. |
What a Protection Order Can — and Cannot — Restrict
While the court upheld the protection orders, it agreed with one of the father’s arguments: the orders went too far in restricting his future online speech. The orders barred him from posting, sharing, or transmitting any videos or media referring to the petitioner or the children “in any manner whatsoever.” The court held that this sweeping language was not narrowly tailored and raised First Amendment concerns.
The court drew a careful line. Speech that itself constitutes coercive control or another form of domestic violence is not protected, and a court may prohibit it. But an order so broad that it could bar a person from ever mentioning that he was married, had children, or wished to discuss parenting generally swept in protected speech. The court sent that portion back to the trial court to be rewritten more narrowly, while leaving the protection orders themselves — and the requirement to remove the existing video — firmly in place.
For petitioners, the practical lesson is encouraging but precise: Washington courts may restrain abusive communications, including online posts that function as coercive control, when an order is narrowly tailored to that conduct. The restriction simply has to be tailored to the harmful conduct rather than a blanket ban on all speech.
How to Petition for a Protection Order in Washington
If your situation involves coercive control or other domestic violence, Washington law provides a path to seek protection. The general process looks like this:
- File a petition. A petition for a domestic violence protection order is typically filed in superior court. In the Seattle area, that usually means King County Superior Court, with petitions in neighboring counties filed in Pierce County or Snohomish County Superior Court.
- Document the pattern. Because coercive control turns on a pattern rather than a single act, it helps to gather messages, posts, records, and a timeline showing the controlling behavior and its impact.
- Temporary order and hearing. A court may issue a temporary order and set a hearing. At the hearing, the court decides whether to enter a longer-term order.
- Standard of proof. The court must find domestic violence by a preponderance of the evidence — more likely than not — to grant the order.
Procedures and local practices vary, and each case turns on its own facts. Working with counsel familiar with the local courts can help you prepare and present your petition.
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I get a protection order in Washington without physical violence?
Yes. Washington’s protection order statute recognizes coercive control and unlawful harassment as forms of domestic violence under RCW 7.105.010. A documented pattern of controlling, manipulative, or threatening behavior can support a DVPO even without a recent physical assault. Each case turns on its own facts, and the court weighs the full context.
What is the standard of proof for a domestic violence protection order?
A court must issue a DVPO if it finds, by a preponderance of the evidence, that the petitioner has been subjected to domestic violence by the respondent. Washington law also makes clear that a court may not deny a petition simply because time has passed since the last incident.
Can a protection order limit what someone posts about me online?
It can, within limits. As Asbach v. Couto illustrates, a court may restrain online communications that amount to coercive control or other domestic violence, but the restriction must be narrowly tailored to that harmful conduct rather than a blanket ban on all speech. A court can also order removal of content that constitutes domestic violence.
Does abuse against one family member affect a case for another?
It can. Washington courts have recognized that domestic violence directed at one household member — such as a parent — can constitute domestic violence against another household member, including children. Courts consider how a pattern of conduct affects the household as a whole.
Talk to a Seattle-Area Protection Order Attorney
Protection order cases are fact-intensive, and coercive control claims in particular depend on presenting a clear, well-documented pattern of behavior. Whether you are seeking protection or responding to a petition, experienced counsel can help you present a clear, well-documented case.
The attorneys at Blair & Kim represent clients in civil protection order and family law matters throughout King, Pierce, and Snohomish Counties, with offices in Seattle and Bellevue. The firm’s combined criminal defense and family law experience is particularly valuable in cases where domestic violence, divorce, and custody issues overlap.
Discuss your situation with Blair & Kim. To talk with our team about a protection order or related family law matter, call (206) 622-6562 or contact us here. You can also review answers to common questions on our FAQ page
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